While not only the start of a new term around the order, it is time for rush in many regions. In RMR, we will be RMR-IFY-ing in typical fashion; we’re having a huge roller skating and bagel party for potential new members. This event will ROLL us into our rush season, where we encourage 8th graders and other Jewish teens to become part of our movement. Following this insane event, we will have multiple rush weekends. Prospects will have the chance to attend programs hosted by each of our 9 Denver chapters and 6 Small City Chapters to find the one that they will thrive in. They may not know it yet, but they will be skating into a world of opportunity that BBYO offers. As exciting as this is, joining can be overwhelming at times.
Here’s 6 things I wish I had known when joining BBYO:
1. Join the chapter that is right for YOU
What leads many to BBYO is the advice of older family or friends. However, just because you have existing connections with these people, it doesn’t mean that their chapter is the best for you. Take the time to explore the individual characteristics, aspects, and people of each. Then, make your OWN decision. Your chapter is your base in BBYO, so choose the one where you’ll feel at home, grow, and make an impact. Ultimately, choose the place where you’ll become the best version of yourself.
2. Enjoy the process and take the time to find “your people”
Finding or creating the right group takes time. At first, it may feel awkward or discouraging. You might wonder if BBYO is the right place for you. But if you stick with it, get involved, and put yourself out there, you’ll find your community. Trust the process. The effort you put into making connections will pay off, and before you know it, you’ll have a circle of friends who will support you for years to come. Even today, as a junior, I continue to meet new people and make connections in BBYO. The relationships you build here are some of the most rewarding of your life.
3. Age isn’t a barrier
BBYO is unique in that 8th graders, freshmen, seniors, and everything in between all share the same space. This can be intimidating at first. When I joined BBYO as a freshman, I was nervous around older members. But what I quickly realized is that the upperclassmen aren’t only approachable–but incredibly inspiring. They’ve been through each step--including where you are—and have so much knowledge to share. Don’t be afraid to reach out and learn from them. Many of the friendships I’ve made have turned into long lasting connections. Whether my friends are in high school or off at college, they remain some of my closest mentors and friends. The relationships built—regardless of age—are everlasting.
4. Run for board
You don’t have to run for board to have an unforgettable BBYO experience, but many who do grow in ways they never imagined. Running for board can feel intimidating, and elections don’t always go as planned. But BBYO is all about second chances, and every experience—whether you win or lose—teaches you something valuable. I can confidently say that my time on both my chapter and regional boards has been some of the most rewarding of my life. It’s where I’ve learned the most about leadership, gained confidence, and made a real impact. So, if you’re considering running for a position, go for it. It might be scary, but it will be so much more rewarding.
5. Make your ideas come to life
At its core, BBYO is a teen-led organization, which means EVERYONE has the chance to get involved and make a difference. If you have an idea for a program, an event, or something your chapter or region could do differently, take action. Whether it’s applying for a game-changer grant, writing legislation, or suggesting a new way to structure a program or convention, your voice matters. BBYO thrives on the creativity and leadership of its members; put your ideas out there and make an impact.
6. Say “YES”
The most important piece of advice I can give is to say “YES” to every opportunity that comes your way. What you get out of BBYO is what you put into it. Get involved; go to chapter events, conventions, regional gatherings, summer programs—just show up. Run for leadership positions, apply for steering committees, and take part in BBYO’s many programs and initiatives. Even if you feel unsure, say yes and push yourself out of your comfort zone. My only regret is not joining sooner because the experiences I’ve had and the friendships I’ve made have been life-changing. BBYO is about creating lasting memories, forming deep connections, and building leadership skills that will last a lifetime. So, say yes, get involved, and make your BBYO experience memorable.
As we roll into RMR’s rush season, remember that this is just the beginning of your BBYO journey. As you attend our roller skating and bagel party and participate in our rush weekends to find the right chapter for you, know that BBYO will open doors to opportunities you never could have imagined. The relationships, skills, and memories you build here will stay with you far beyond the rush period. So, embrace the process, say yes to new experiences, and most importantly, have fun as you discover all that BBYO has to offer.
So, whether you’re rushing or just looking for BBYO advice, take note of these six things. By following them, you’ll set yourself up for a meaningful and rewarding experience that will last a lifetime. Welcome to the BBYO family—your adventure is just beginning.
Rosa is a BBG from Denver, Colorado, who is left handed.
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